The hidden chapter of Destiny Payton’s life finally revealed

For years, viewers of Love & Marriage Huntsville have watched Destiny Payton show up as the loyal friend, the steady voice in the middle, the one holding everyone else together. But what they haven’t seen until now is the full depth of the woman behind the composed exterior. A realtor with over two decades in the industry, entrepreneur, singer, actress, and founder of Madonni Beauty, Payton has built a life defined by grit, grace and a refusal to be defined by her circumstances. This season, she’s trading guarded for raw. She’s pulling back the curtain on her time in foster care, her complicated relationship with her mother’s addiction, the siblings she spent decades not knowing, and the friendships that have finally reached their breaking point. This is Destiny Payton  unfiltered, undiminished and fully stepping into her light.

What should viewers expect from you this season?

I think people should be prepared for another side of Destiny, first and foremost, peeling back the layers, and there’s a lot of them. Getting to know more depths of me. I think people have gotten to know me as the friend, the person in the middle, the supporter, but I don’t think people have intrinsically got to know Destiny, her roots, what I come from, what I’ve been through, what I’ve survived, and what God has brought me through.

This season you reveal deeply personal parts of your childhood, including your time in foster care and reconnecting with your father and family. What made you feel ready to share something so intimate with the world?

My father got custody of me, he was the one that brought me out of the foster care system. And reconnecting with my mom, well, not really reconnecting, but allowing you and the viewers into the world of our relationship, or if you can call it that. I think I’ve been through so many storms, I’ve been through people telling my story for me, and what I realized, and have finally come to understand about reality TV, is that people can’t spray you with your truth if you just tell it.

One of the things that nobody really understood was the depths of my mom’s addiction and the things that have been created from that. like siblings, the relationships or lack thereof that I have – siblings that I didn’t even know existed, well, knew existed, but never knew where they were. Going through that whole journey of finding them and building relationships with them, it’s been very healing. For a while I was like, I don’t even know if I want to do this. I’m embarrassed  my mom’s been on her journey of the life that she chose for 30-plus years, and a part of you is like, it’s hard for you to separate that that’s not you, that’s your mom. People try to shame you with your parents’ addictions or their choices. So for me, I said the only way that I can really heal from this, or really be able to go to the next level and evolve, is to step right into it. And so I did.

Your father stepped in and raised you as a single dad. How did his presence shape the way you approach life, friendships and relationships?

Everybody always says I got “big D” energy  I was raised by a man. My dad has a big heart, he has a huge heart, but he don’t play. I always tell them, I came out pretty sane coming from the two of y’all.

My dad has shown me so much love and support in my life. As far as needs, they were always met, but I had everything I wanted:  love, understanding, friendship, discipline, all the Jordans. My dad is one of my best friends. And then I have to give accolades to the woman that he chose to mother me, which is my godmother, who I call mama, his best friend who stepped in. She has been the mother in my life since I was six years old. It’s just been a blessing.

You also meet your half-siblings on camera this season. What was going through your mind walking into that moment?

 I was nervous. It’s like a moment in my life where I feel like a space that was empty was being filled, because I used to always joke ‘yeah, I got three siblings that I had never met’. It’s eight of us total, but the other siblings are in Detroit and my family has always stayed connected. These three that were left, I’m like, I could be in a room with them and I wouldn’t even know who they were. They could be sitting right next to me.

That was the thing I said for decades. And so now, I’m not able to say that  I know them, we talk. We have a group chat, we’re called the “Wombmates.” We’re just developing our relationship as blood siblings with strangers. It’s been an interesting journey. I will say a beautiful journey, but interesting.

This season also shows some major shifts within the friendship groups. Were there any dynamics that surprised you while filming?

 I don’t know if I’m surprised anymore in this social experiment of reality TV. I think that people’s insecurities show up in different ways, and sometimes people sacrifice relationships because they’re not dealing with their truth. I’ve had that experience over and over again in this group, and I always end up being placed in the middle because it’s easier to do that than to focus in on what’s really going on.

I made a pact to myself going forward I’m not going to try to make people see themselves in their conflicts with others. I’m not going to take a side. I’m choosing me. If you want me to pick a side, you’re wasting your time.

One moment viewers will definitely be talking about is that disagreement with Tisha at the winery and in the car. From your perspective, what really sparked that tension?

During that conversation, it’s like, what are you mad at? Why are we here? How did we get here? It’s not a new blueprint. Same one.

She questioned your loyalty during those exchanges. When someone challenges your loyalty like that, how does Destiny respond?

The thing with this world is normally when someone challenges your friendship, your loyalty or your character, if you don’t see me, then it’s adios. But we’re in this experiment where we have to talk through things and still be in the same spaces. So, these friendships and relationships have been such therapy for me  figuring out how to maneuver and be in the same space with people you would normally just cut off.

When I’m challenged in that way, I always try to find an understanding. I want to get to the root. And when it’s not rooted in anything, you get the roundabout. You never get there because it’s not rooted in anything real – just insecurities. I’m not responsible for people’s insecurities and feelings. I’ve tried to take it on, and in my learning lesson of being a friend, it’s just not my responsibility. If you challenge my loyalty and you don’t see it, then honestly, at this space and juncture in my grown life, I ain’t got time.

After everything that unfolded this season, where does that relationship with Tisha stand today?

I always wish people well, but at this place in my life, I don’t have the energy to prove. I don’t have the energy to justify. I’m taking care of a child. I’m taking care of my father, my godmother who’s my mama. I have a lot of life. I got businesses going on, I’m back in my creative space, I’m back in the studio. I’m acting, I’m running my business. I don’t have time to babysit friendships and feelings. The people that love me and see me, we’re going to keep on building and rocking. And that’s what it is.

What else can viewers expect from you this season?

You can expect to peel back more layers of Destiny and you see me becoming more of a “I’m not dimming my light anymore” type of person. Standing in it. A lot of times I realized, and not even knowing that I was doing it, I was trying to make sure that everybody else felt like they could be who they wanted to be, and in that process I was dimming my light. No more.

So, you see me really back in real estate, really grinding, doing what I’ve been doing in real estate for over 20 years. Just giving you all a glimpse of the professional side of me as well.

When viewers watch your journey this season, the personal revelations, the growth, the disagreements  what do you hope they ultimately understand about you?

That there’s not one side to a person. You’ve seen pop-off Detroit Destiny. You’ve seen guarded Destiny, that you really don’t know what’s going on with. But now you get a chance to see the soft side of me because a lot of healing has happened. They watched me go through a lot of stuff without even knowing the backstory to it, you just saw the reaction in the present. So now, you’re going to get a chance to see more of who I am after life has life’d and God has guided.

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